What Do I Do To Release The Tension In My Seat?

Hi Fearless Superstars! Today’s question is, “What do I do to release the tension in my seat?”

Do you have a lot of tension in your seat when you ride your horse, which in turn makes your horse tense?

If you have tension or loss of confidence or full-blown fear when you ride, you will tend to ride with a lot of tension, which your horse can feel.

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Hey, fearless superstars, and welcome to Fearless Friday! Today I’m going to answer the question, “What do I do to release the tension in my seat?”

If you have tension or loss of confidence or full-blown fear when you ride, you tend to ride like this. And you can see straight away, Ollie stopped, because he’s like, “What’s going on?”

So, here’s me relaxed. I don’t care what happens. He can go bolt, he can go do whatever, I don’t care. And then, the minute I get on a horse and go, “He might bolt, he might bolt,” you see it’s a very, very, very effective halt tag.

And then if we’re like this with our body but we’re kicking, the horse again is like, “I don’t know what you want.”

So, you really increase your chances of the horse playing up because your body is saying, “Shut down, stop, slow down, no,” and you might be saying, “Oh, but I have to walk, I have to walk, I have to walk … but don’t walk, but don’t walk.” You see how confusing it is?
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That might help.

But, what I want you to do is to realize the responsibility you have when you put your foot in the stirrup, which is to give your horse the confidence he needs. He’s just got some scary rider get on his back. What about him? He might be freaking out.

Our job is to be the confident leader that he needs, and to make sure our signals that come from our body and our aids match.
So, feeling that you’re tight in the seat … here’s me tighting, tighting, I’m not using the reins, tighter, tighter, tighter, tighter … oh, he’s not going to stop now. He’s going to ignore you. Okay.

What that is is literally, think, how do you make your seat tight? You’re tightening your bum cheeks. You’re tightening your thighs.

You’re tightening everything.

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What I need you to do when you’re on a horse, and I know it can be the scariest thing, but remember the responsibilities you took on when you put your foot in the stirrup, is to give clear aids.

I want you to even take your legs off. Now he’s stopping for that. Even in the halt, have someone hold the horse if you need. Take your legs off and just do that, and go, okay, because you can’t have a tight seat. You have to tighten your legs to tighten your seat. If you want to loosen your seat, just take your legs off. That means your seat has to sit on.

Now, if you’re still doing this with your seat, you can still tighten your bum and have your legs off, I need you to literally just pick up your thighs and bum, open it all up, and even do that. Really sink down in there and go, “Okay, I’m in.”

When I’m on a horse that’s going to throw me off, I want to be in. I don’t want to be perched on top, because then I’m going to topple in. Remember, we’re in a saddle, it’s got a front bit and a bottom bit. It’s our seatbelt. Plus our abs and our back and stomach are our seatbelts.

So, sink in there. Really get long and deep. And when you’re there, now I need you to breathe.

If you’re that nervous and you need some help, have someone lead the horse for you, and literally get on for five minutes and just keep your legs off, keep your seat open, and breathe. In, one, two, three, and out. So, in for three and out for three.

And, you see, whenever I breathe out, even though I don’t think I’m nervous, I don’t think I’m holding any tension, when I breathed out, did you see how he, he’s like, “Yo there! We’re done.”

He feels so more relaxed. Your ability to not hold the horse in any way is really, really important for both you and the horse. To you, so you feel more confident in letting go of control, which I know freaks you out, and the horse, because the horse goes, “Someone trusts me.”

When you don’t hold the horse, you’re saying to the horse, “It’s okay. Whatever you do and whatever we do together, we’re going to do it together.” Rather than going, “I don’t trust you, so I’m going to hold you like this, and make sure that you don’t do anything.” If someone did that to you, you would start to rebel. Same as parenting.

So, you really want to give that horse that relaxation and that ability to say, “Hey, I trust you. Let’s just go for a ride together,” and you work on … So, give that a go, and enjoy.

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