What Do I Do If My Riding Is Affected By Nerves?
You’re worried about something that hasn’t happened yet. Maybe it happened in the past and you think it’s going to repeat in the future or maybe it has never happened, but yet you’re scared of it.
Nerves to me is such a waste of energy and I absolutely refuse to waste my energy on anything that isn’t productive, fun, enjoyable, and useful.
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So nerves are a funny thing because we know we shouldn’t have them, but we tend to think that they happen like the rain happens. Oh, I got nervous. What a shame. I wish I didn’t get nervous. We seem to think that we have no control in it and we have no control when they arrive and we have no control when they leave. And that simply isn’t true. To do nerves and to do nervous, there’s actually a very particular strategy that you would have created to make sure that you create that behavior and that emotion in your body and in your brain.
So, normally it has something to do with … Well, it normally always has something to do with you’re worried about something that hasn’t happened yet. Maybe it happened in the past and you think it’s going to repeat in the future or maybe it has never happened, but yet you’re scared of it. But it is something about … Yeah, you’re worried about something that is not actually happening. Because let me tell you, when your horse is bucking, like when it’s actually bucking or throwing you off or bolting, you’re not nervous, you’re something else. Well, exactly. You’re scared when it’s happening, you’re not nervous.
So nerves to me is such a waste of energy and I absolutely refuse to waste my energy on anything that isn’t productive, fun, enjoyable, and useful. So nerves is none of those things so therefore it’s got to go. So you need to work out how you’re doing nerves. Like I said, you’re probably showing yourself a picture or you’re telling yourself something or you’ve just got that feeling in your body. And most people aren’t taught in school how to remove feelings in their body. It’s a little bit out of the scope outside of this video on how to remove feelings in your body. There’s absolutely a cool technique that works that you can use. But you need to just start to become …
I always say awareness is 99.9% of the journey. So, when I’m coaching a client, 99.9% is just making them aware of what is actually happening and not what they think is happening and what the actual problem is, depending on what they think the problem is. And then the last 1% or 0.1% is the actual NLP tool technique to remove it. So I need you guys to go on an awareness hunt. If you’re having nerves affect your writing, you need to find out why. Why? Why do you create bad images and show yourself? Why do you create a painful world that tells you that you can’t do it? Why do you create scenarios that haven’t happened yet that could happen? Like do you do that when you go driving in a car? Imagine all the possible ways you could be in a car accident. Of course you don’t because if you did, you wouldn’t get in the car. But yet people do that with their writing and then hope to get on their horse and ride and it’d be okay.
So if you are going to waste energy on thinking about things that haven’t happened yet and you’re going to all of that, make it fun. Do the things that could happen. So maybe you could get on your horse and you could have the best ride of your life. Maybe you could get on your horse and it would be absolutely fun and exciting. Maybe you could get on your horse and you could be the best rider you’ve ever been. Waste energy on that rather on the stuff that’s not going to happen or could happen or might happen or will happen, but it’s out of your control anyway.
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