How do you focus on the good things?
Stop focusing on what can go wrong!
I could focus on my horse could go for a gallop, my horse could bolt, my horse could rear, my horse could do something. Now obviously it’s not fair. I’m in a very controlled environment. If I did that on a race course on a racehorse, that would be a bit more scary. But the thing is when I dropped the reins all I’m focusing on is doing a really cool video for you guys. So what you focus on is what you get.
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So a really, really super question of asking, how do I… what was it? How do I focus on what can go right? Because I’m constantly focusing on what can go wrong. So at least you have enough insight to know that you’re focusing on the wrong thing. So I’ve dropped the reins. I could focus on my horse could go for a gallop, my horse could bolt, my horse could rear, my horse could do something. Now obviously it’s not fair. I’m in a very controlled environment. If I did that on a race course on a racehorse, that would be a bit more scary. But the thing is when I dropped the reins all I’m focusing on is doing a really cool video for you guys. So what you focus on is what you get.
So I want you to pretend that I’ve locked you in a dark warehouse. No, it’s pretend, chill out. I’ve locked you in a dark warehouse and I want you to tell me what is the warehouse like? And you can’t tell me because it’s all dark. So now I give you a flashlight and I say, “Point to the left hand corner,” you point to the left hand corner and there’s cupcakes and a clown and balloons and a DJ and jelly beans and just fun stuff. And I go, “what’s in the warehouse?” And you say, “A party.” Then I say, “Take the flashlight and go to the right hand corner.” And in the right hand corner, there’s skeletons and bones and a really scary looking man and scary stuff. And I go, “What’s in the warehouse?” “An axe murderer, who’s about to kill me” So what is the warehouse? Is it a party house or is it a murder house? And the fact is, it depends on where your flashlight is because it’s both.
And that, my friends, is your experience with your riding. If you focus and you put your flashlight on everything that went wrong on your ride, then your ride was a bad ride. And I’ve just finished riding her and if I think about it, whoo, roughly, let’s say about 37 times we got things wrong. Now I take my flashlight and I say, “Okay, and what went right?” And I would say, “Oh, about 123 things went right in our ride today.” So was the ride good or was the ride bad? It depends what I focus on. If I focus on 37 things that went wrong, it was bad. And that’s what most people tend to do. How was your ride? Oh, this happened at minute 17 yeah, but what happened at minute zero to 17, that doesn’t matter because of what happened at minute 17. Yeah, it does, it all matters.
And guess what? You drive your bus, you get to choose. If you want to choose all the things that went wrong. Your 37 things that went wrong and minute 17 that was a disaster. I’m sorry that you try and make your life miserable. Don’t do that. Unless you want to. I choose to live my life on the zero to 16 minutes, the 18 to 33 minutes and 127 things that went right, but don’t think I’m an idiot. I definitely look and take learnings from the things that went wrong and minute 17 and I go, “Okay, what do I need to do to make that different? How can I make that better? How can I avoid that next time?” But it’s not where the focus is. I look at it with the light, I go, “Cool,” take my learnings and then I switch my spotlight always at the party corner.
I want to live in the party corner and I think you guys do too. So I trust that gives you a little bit insight into what you can do with your flashlight when you ride. Next time you ride, enjoy flashing your flashlight at the party and see how your riding experience changes.
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