Podcast Episode 8: Goal Setting - Taking Action!

Today Natasha shares with you one of her favourite topics - goal setting! Even in 2020, when all of our goals from the start of the year don't look like they will happen, it's still important to keep moving forwards, set those goals and taking action!

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All right. So I'm thinking, what should I talk about today? I was thinking I could have a little bit of a talk about why we don't take action. Okay. So does everyone get in order to be successful - even if you have dreams, even if you have the best plans, even if you knew exactly what you had to do and have all the resources to do it, if you don't do it, nothing's going to happen. And that at the end of the day is the whole thing. So if action is where the magic is, and action is where you know where the rubber hits the road. If you take action, you're going to get a result. And that's what you first got to remember. If I take action, I'm going to get a result. Now I'm not saying it's always going to be the best result. I'm not going to always say that it's going to be the winning result.
I'm not even going to say, um, you know, it's guaranteed success. No, but you will get a result. And that's a hell of a lot more important than if you don't take action. Success has never been made on your couch. Success has never been made in the absence of action. So if you know what you have to do and you're not doing it, you need to dig why. And this is where most people lie to themselves. Yeah. I'm talking to you. Me included. I lie to myself sometimes too. Sometimes I'm quite good at catching myself out now. But if you're on the couch and you know, you've set a goal to get fitter or be healthier, and you've decided an action step is to go out for a walk. So it's 5:00 PM. You're on the couch. It's raining outside and it's time for your walk. Do you take action or do you not? And if you don't take action, what do you normally say? Do you say I chose today to not follow my dreams and goals. I chose today to not, um, do what I needed to do to get a result. I chose today to stand in my own way, block my own success and stop myself from being all I could be. Is that how you talk to yourself?
I didn't think so. What do you say to yourself?
Normally what you say is I'll do it tomorrow. And when you say I'll do it tomorrow, that sounds so fine. Yeah. Okay. You'll do it tomorrow. That sounds good. You'll do it tomorrow. And you let yourself off the hook or you say I couldn't possibly because I'm going to get wet and I'm feeling a bit sick. It's a really good thing that I don't go for my walk today and you make an excuse and you're very adult and you're very grown up. And normally it's a very clever excuse and it's a very logical excuse and it's a very, um, yeah, it's, it's a plausible, excuse you, you allow yourself to get off the hook, but you haven't like, could you really sit on the couch and go, yep. Right now I'm choosing to stand in the way of my own dreams right now. I'm choosing to not take action towards being all I could be. Right now I'm making the choice to stop myself from doing what I should do.
You don't normally talk to yourself like that. Now let's say you do. Let's say you go, okay. Yup. I'm blocking myself. Yeah. I'm standing in my own way. Yes. Um, and then you'll go with the because and why? Because I don't feel like it. And I'm a grown woman. And if I don't feel like doing something, I don't have to do it. Yeah, that's true. But that's not what I was talking about. Again, you're coming with the excuse. You're coming with the reason why you are not, and the most successful people in the world just cut that off where it stands. They have that discipline that if I say, I'll do it, I'll do it. And that is a really, really huge thing to foster in a human being. If you you say that you'll do something, you'll do it. And that is one of the things like when I think about homeschooling my kids or educating my kids, reading, writing, and math is so far down on the list so far down on the list.
And you can judge me for that or have an opinion on that. I don't mind. But what's high up on our list is, say, say what you mean and mean what you say when you say you'll do something, you'll do it. That you follow through that you're committed. All those kinds of personality traits is what Phil and I think is it is our job to teach our children because no matter what they do on the planet, if they have those characteristics or those character skills, they will, they will be successful in whatever realm or decisions, you know, whatever success is defined by them. Okay. So then let's come up with another example. So let's say you've entered a horse riding competition, and let's say it's raining, or, um, you're getting nervous and you decide to not go. You got to get deep on what is that really about?
And like I said, some people are scared of success. Some people are scared of failure. Some people are scared to be seen. Some people are scared to show up. Some people are scared to be tested if they've got what it takes. You know that when you think of a superhero, who's a famous, who's your favorite superhero - it should be you. You are a superhero. You are the one that triumphs against evil. You are the one that shows up when everyone else is scared. You're the one that comes in and saves the day. Whenever, when all hope is lost, that's you. And again, I know you weren't taught that, but it's something you can learn now.
So that's what I need you to kind of think about when you're thinking. Yeah, I know. I don't take action towards my goals. I don't take action towards my dreams. Are you being your super hero right now? Because it's okay to be scared. I'm scared all the time. All the time. I tell my kids, I'm scared all the time. They're like, really? You get scared? I'm like, yes, of course all the time. But that's where the magic is. If you take action, when you're scared, remember that's what bravery is. Bravery is not the absence of fear. It's doing it when you have fear, that's bravery and that's being a superhero. If you're scared to be brave, it's because you don't trust yourself. And you're scared to trust yourself because you learnt somewhere along the line in your life, that bad things happened when you trusted yourself or that you couldn't trust yourself, that you couldn't handle it and that you haven't got it. So you, that's just something you've learnt, which means it's something you can unlearn. And when you think about your life, where it is right now, people in life, things can happen. Things can happen real things, but
you've got two choices you can hang on to what happened to you. Or you can move on from what happened to you.
So you're going to hang on or move on. And I know we've gone deep quick, but that's the essence of it. When it comes to riding, do you feel a fake it till you make it as the way to go when it comes to confidence? I think that's part of it. Absolutely. Um, I think, I think definitely when it comes to, um, riding, when you're feeling a certain emotion, like fear or anxiety, I think to fake confidence and just go, I'm not confident, but I'm just going to fake. I'm just gonna ride it. If I did have confidence and I'm just going to make believe that I'm a confident rider and I'm just gonna fake, that I'm a confident rider. That'll get you magic. Um, learning to back yourself is something again that I'm obsessed about teaching my kids, you know, every night when my kids go to sleep, I'm like, I trust myself.
Like they just have to repeat me and little Danika and Tyler are like I trust myself and it's like, I believe in myself. I believe in myself. I'm amazing. I'm amazing. I'm good at what I do. I'm good at what I do. It's okay to fail. It's okay to fail. I've got this, I've got this. Um, cause that's just so important to their little brains for them to know they will make mistakes. I want them to make mistakes. You know, Danika is always high fiving me saying, mom. I just had the biggest fail. I fell off my bike. I fell off my horse. I spelled a word wrong. I got something wrong in maths high five. Awesome. Then what happened? Then I figured it out. And then I did it well. Or did it okay. Or successfully completed the task high five again, I say to her, I'd rather she failed and then successfully completed something than just successfully completed something.
Cause if she does successfully complete something, she doesn't learn as much as when she fails and then successfully complete something. And that builds her trust muscle of I can stuff something up and still then figure it out. I can stuff something up and the world doesn't end. I can just give it another go and then, and then get it. And that is all of it because I'm like you, I wasn't raised like that. I didn't have that. I had to learn that later. And that's where true happiness, true fulfillment, true bliss, true enjoyment comes where your brain is clear from all the shit and all the rules that you've made up. They're not the rules. And sure. Sometimes society thinks they are the rules, but they don't have to be the rules. And the more you hang out. And search for people that don't believe in, you know, the normal rules.
Like I don't believe that maths is the most important thing in the world. I don't believe that school is the most important thing in the world. Now, most people think I'm wrong and that I'm stupid or that's bad. And that's cool rock on because I've also found people that go, yeah, you know what? I think that's true. So I hang out and surround myself with that. And the world is such a big place. It's big enough all of us to live in whichever way we want to believe in whatever we want and rocking and rolling in whichever way we choose. And I'm all good with all of that until you get someone from one part of the world and I'm talking about the world figuratively, not actually, but you've got one person in one camp that goes, no, no, no, I'm right. You're wrong.
That's when I get upset. And that's when I get fired up because my whole mission, you know, my mission is to help riders, take their riding journey to the next level and have more fun, love, joy and excitement in every riding moment. That is my mission for your riding success. But what I would love, and I say this to my friends all the time I've gone. I don't know how, how to do this. I don't know how I'm going to do it. But what I would love to do is to help the human race as a whole lift up and learn that there is no right or wrong. There's just every different shade of gray and how they see the world is right for them. But they have to be open minded enough to realize that everyone else sees it differently and that everyone else can rock and roll within the space of, um, you know, the laws of nature, which is, you know, let's not kill anyone.
Let's not be mean to anyone. Let's not, you know, and that's where it's, you know, the live and let live. That's my big philosophy live and let live love everyone for how they're choosing to rock and roll. And sometimes even when I come up against people that have done horrific things, like, I don't know if you'll know in the, in the, in the media, there was a man that, um, uh, I think he burnt out the car with his children and his wife inside. She was trying to get away from him and he set the car on fire. So he's killed his wife and his kids. And I was like, wow. And what's your instinct? What, what a horrible man, that's the instinct, you know? And they were, they were vilifying this man. And I understand that. I understand that, he, like, I'm not saying... I think that man did a terrible, horrible, awful, disgusting thing.
But I don't know if that man is horrible, disgusting, and awful. He just did a horrible, disgusting and awful thing. So when you can dissociate what people do as to who they are, that's when you can then still feel love and understanding for every single human. As I say, every single person on the planet is doing the best they can with what they know. If they knew how to do better, they would. That is just my philosophy. So when horrible things happen or when things I can't understand someone does, that's just my map to going, wow. Okay. There's never an excuse for killing people. Ooh. Do you want to go down a rabbit hole? Like, I don't know how, how I could comprehend if someone came in and shot Phil and my kids in the head, someone has just taken the three most important people on the planet away from me.
Now, I know you're probably going to say, but that doesn't give you an excuse to kill him. No of course it doesn't, but I'm not gonna deny that. Maybe I would want to feel that. And I don't know if I could ever kill someone or pull a trigger, but when people go, I could never kill someone. I go, awwww don't, I don't know. There may be a scenario or a situation that you haven't thought of where you might be capable of, that it might have something to do with your kids. You know, it might be a zombie, apocalypse, um, you know, but that's where I try to get my brain to go. And wow, there is always, you can't ever say I I'm not that, or I could never do that, or that's not... Like your brain can't comprehend all the different scenarios.