FearLESS Friday Ep73

Hey FearLESS Superstars! Today’s question is, “Do you have a fear of standing out?”

Lots of people have a fear of not belonging, not fitting in, not being part of the crowd. And that was a fear that was pressed into us from our ancestry, because if we didn’t belong, if we didn’t fit in, if everyone in the tribe said, “We don’t like her,” they literally would outcast you and you wouldn’t be able to live in the cave. And you wouldn’t get fire. You wouldn’t get food. And you’d die. You just wouldn’t be around.

And it doesn’t matter who you are and what you like and what you don’t like, there are six billion people on this planet, and you will find other people that like the same things you do, especially with how the world is so connected these days.

 

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Hey fearless superstars, today I’m going to answer the question, what do you do if you’re scared of what other people are going to say about you, think about you, or what are they going to do when they look at you when you ride?

Okay, so thank you so much for asking this question, because I think a lot of people suffer from this, the fear of standing out. Now, clearly, all in gold, I’m standing out. I’m loud. I’m annoying. I have an annoying voice. I wear gold boots. I ride Friesians in open dressage competition. All these things.

Lots of people have a fear of not belonging, not fitting in, not being part of the crowd. And that was a fear that was pressed into us from our ancestry, because if we didn’t belong, if we didn’t fit in, if everyone in the tribe said, “We don’t like her,” they literally would outcast you and you wouldn’t be able to live in the cave. And you wouldn’t get fire. You wouldn’t get food. And you’d die. You just wouldn’t be around.

So the need to have people like us, the need to have people say that we belong in their group, that we’re allowed to hang out with them, is really, really, really, strong. But, thank God, we don’t live in caves. We actually don’t need anyone to say that we’re okay and say that we can hang with them, because if people decide that they don’t want to hang out with me because I wear gold and because I have an annoying voice, or whatever else it is, I go, “Cool. See ya,” and I go find a group of people that do want to hang out with me.

And it doesn’t matter who you are and what you like and what you don’t like, there are six billion people on this planet, and you will find other people that like the same things you do, especially with how the world is so connected these days. Anything you like, you can type into Facebook and find a Facebook group. If you like blue Smurfs that wear polka dot hats, I’m sure you can find that group.

So when you’re riding and you’re thinking, “I don’t want to ride in front of people. I’m scared what they’re going to say. I’m scared if they’re going to laugh at me. I’m scared they’re going to judge me,” smile, know that’s normal, that what you’re going through is a normal reaction, but it’s not real. It’s not real. Let your so-called friends, if they are going to judge you, talk about you, say nasty things about you, go do that, because they’re not your friends. And just go do what makes you smile and what makes you happy.

So I trust that helps. I’ll see you next week.

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